Parenting The Adlerian Way

Q1. 6th grade girl is the target of a mean “best friend”. Q2. My kids live in a two-household arrangement, and the other home doesn’t have structure. Q3. 16yr old daughter changed schools halfway through the school year and while she has a couple of new friends, she still stays in room and is lonely.Do you have a parenting question for me?  Email me at alyson@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com 

Q1. How do we talk to our kids about racism and the George Floyd riots? Q2. My son saw the video of George Floyd’s murder. How do I help him process his emotions? Q3. What can I do as a white parent to ensure I don’t raise a racist and do my part to eradicate racism? Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. How do I get my 12 yr old son who has become moody, to open up and talk to me about what is wrong?Q2. My kids are starting to play on the street with social distancing rules, but I don’t trust them to actually keep their distance. What do I do?Q3. My 8 year old son is exhibiting anxiety in going out in public now that more things are opening up. How do I help him?Q4. The whole family has become snappy and I am yelling more. Everything is a battle. How do I get my family back on track?Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. I am using your Adlerian parenting approaches but my husband has not studied them yet. How can I manage our different parenting styles? Q2. I am trying your techniques on ignoring when the kids fight and just walking away, but they follow me or they get physical with one another. What do I do?Q3. My kids are using Zoom calls to stay connected with friends but when I check they were being disrespectful and just watching a friend play instead of visiting with one another.  Q4. My daughter is using tech to stay connected with her friends more since Covid. Now that they are all online, they are excluding my daughter on FaceTime group chats like “mean girls”.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Alyson’s thoughts on education and homeschooling during Covid. Q1. My daughter struggles with math and says “I’m stupid”. How do I get her to do her online math homework without a fight? Q2. My son does his homeschooling online in the morning from his bedroom, but when I check on him, he is on YouTube. How do I get him to do schoolwork without policing? Q3. (24:24) My son won’t sit still to do his homework. He gets up and down and it ends up taking him twice as long.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. 2 yr old competitive dancer has gained a lot of weight during the pandemic and I want to bring this up to her properly, and in a healthy way. Q2. 2.5 yr old has lost interest in potty training. How do I motivate them?Q3. 7 yr old loves our new puppy but refuses to follow the rules and be gentle. What should I do? Q4. 8 yr old is loud and shrieks all the time. How do I get this to stop? I have tried everything. Alyson’s blogs on the topic of encouragement:  https://alysonschafer.com/category/best-parenting-practices/praise-encouragement/Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. What are the consequences for a 12 yr old daughter who is mean to her 9 yr old brother? Q2. When is it okay to swear? My 13 year old just started. Q3. Help in bringing back and improving family meetings now that they are teenagers.Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com  Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com

Q1. Attached toddler won’t let mom out of her sight in the house.Q2. 6 year old still soiling underpants. Q3. How to deal with lying. Link to Po Bronson’s Article on lying research: https://nymag.com/news/features/43893/Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com and receive my “Home Responsibilities By Age” download.

Q1. I’m trying to work from home, but I am getting nothing done with the kids at home.  HELP.Q2. My kids keep coming into my home office and interrupting my work. Q3. What is it with being on a phone call? As soon as I take a call my kids demand my attention. Do you have a parenting question for me? Submit it to hello@alysonschafer.com Sign up for my monthly newsletter at www.alysonschafer.com